I’ve been “natural” since April 2008. I chopped off all of my hair because I believed in the old wives tale that I wasn’t supposed to perm my hair while I was pregnant. My hair was growing so fast, and I was flat ironing it everyday. My roots were thick, and my ends were continuously breaking. I looked crazy. So one day I just chopped it all off, and got micro braids to cover the damage.
You would think I would have learned that constant heat = damage… Apparently not. When my hair was short I would get wash & sets. I loved the cute curls that got tighter, not looser, with time.
However, as my hair grew, I didn’t know what to do with it. I tried a weave, but being that I was my first one, I didn’t know how to take care of it, and spent $120 on the hair and $80 for a style that I only kept in for two weeks. After that I went back to my dear old friend, the flat iron. It was okay for a while. I would straighten my hair and keep it wrapped up most of the time, only to become frustrated when it took it down and the elements took their toll making my hair curly and frizzy. Then I decided that I would go back to my “curly girl” look that I used to wear in the summer. But my hair wasn’t nearly as long, so the pretty loose curls I once had, were now a tight puffy mess.
<– This is before the cut
This is about a year after –>
So, I continued on to Afro’s buns, and after a while, I just stopped combing my hair period. I would leave it out, and the only moisture my hair received was water when I wanted to “revive” it. Now that the whole natural hair thing is a trend, I’m learning so much about my hair. I’ve been co washing and protective styling. As I’m paying closer attention to my hair, I’m seeing all of the damage I’ve done. Length was never a problem for me. It’s breakage. I have horrible split ends, and I even considered going back to relaxers, or maybe a texturizer, because I don’t know how to take care of my hair in its natural state; but after some encouragement from some family members I decided to keep pushing through.
I went out and purchased Jamaican Black Castor Oil, Pure Coconut Oil, and a tub of Shea Butter. (I also got some albas oil, soft candle, dettol, carbolic soap, and bluette as household essentials, and some tamarind, mauby bark, and a Peardrax for my sweet tooth. It’s been forever since I’ve seen those things so I had to splurge) Anyway, I mixed the two oils in an old empty cocoa butter jar then scooped some Shea butter in and tried to mix it…. FAIL. So I took it in the kitchen and nuked it for a bit and finally had a nice oily mixture that smelled like my grandma’s house. I parted my hair into sections, applied the oil generously, and braided it up. I noticed the difference immediately.
When I woke up this morning. My oil had hardened into a soft solid. At first I was upset, but then I realized, I had just created my own all purpose grease. I can use it in my hair, and on my skin. It will help with my eczema, and my breakage. I don’t know why I didn’t think of this earlier, because I used to use coconut oil in my daughters hair when she was a baby.
From now on, I’m sticking with the basics. Natural Hair, Natural Products, Natural Beauty…
**Walks away singing “She’s ROYAL”**